79 Quotes of Mariella Frostrup

” We invest less in our friendships and expect more of friends than any other relationship. We spend days working out where to book for a romantic dinner, weeks wondering how to celebrate a partner or parent’s birthday, and seconds forgetting a friend’s important anniversary. “
” Only those with skin as thick as elephant hide can hope to sail through their teens unscathed by self-doubt and bouts of depression. “
” Sustaining true friendship is a lot more challenging than we give it credit for. “
” Life is rife with frustrations, jealousies and, on occasion, an overwhelming sense of its injustices, but it’s a big mistake to let such negative sentiments rule our lives and dictate choices. “
” Every friendship goes through ups and downs. Dysfunctional patterns set in; external situations cause internal friction; you grow apart and then bounce back together. “
” Quite honestly, if we do manage to destroy the planet with our devil-may-care attitude to natural resources, I’d suggest we leave, as a dossier in our defence, the collected letters to agony aunts and uncles down the generations. It would certainly prove that we weren’t all bad! “
” Joy acts like a trampoline, everything that touches it bouncing right back off it. “
” The point of the feminist movement wasn’t simply to set our underwear on fire and muscle into small spaces in the male-dominated workplace, but to create a world where the contribution of both sexes was equally valued and no one’s worth was judged on their take-home salary. “
” Ageing is one of those battles you’re not going to win. I’ll try to look as good as I can as long as I can. I don’t think I’ll do cosmetic surgery because I’m a wimp. “
” With longer life spans and better health and education, many feel that giving birth to a baby a mere couple of decades after they themselves were in the cradle is a little premature. “
” With longer life spans and better health and education, many feel that giving birth to a baby a mere couple of decades after they themselves were in the cradle is a little premature. “
” Contrary to popular mythology, the best and most durable relationships are based not on vulnerability or passion but on a conjugation of positive attributes, a meeting of mind, body and soul that is all the more powerful as it is not weighed down with neediness and unreasonable expectation. “
” Once you’ve raised a child to adulthood, you can only be as demanding as your offspring allow. “
” You only need to look at Jane Austen to see how crossed wires can become a defining aspect of romantic life. Then again, if the course of true love ran more smoothly, it would have a terribly detrimental effect on our cache of love stories. “
” Had Elizabeth Bennet known how wildly Darcy’s heart beat for her, ‘Pride and Prejudice’ would barely have made it into a short story. Their torturously slow-burning romance is a classic example of how men and women still struggle to communicate the most basic of emotions. “
” Often, those who bruise easily spend too much time thinking about themselves. I’d go so far as to say that oversensitivity is a privilege of the underoccupied. The majority of people don’t have the time to lavish care on emotional wounds – they’re too busy getting on with living. “
” It’s a universal truth that no parent wishes to acknowledge that the fear and phobias we are in thrall to in adulthood almost invariably connect back to childhood experiences. “
” We’re naturally programmed to endure a muddle of emotions as we leave childhood behind. “
” Kids are like glue: they can bond together, unlikely companions, even when there is little else left to maintain the connection. “
” It’s so much easier to count our disadvantages than tot up the mitigating circumstances that generally outweigh the despair. “
” Mixed messages are just part and parcel of the romantic terrain, and rather than berate yourself for any crossed wires, you’d do better to work on your future resilience. “
” It’s perfectly possible to love your toddler but struggle to like them when times are hard. “
” Emotions are products of our mind, and we can actually train ourselves to choose whether we banish or embrace them. “
” Of course, I’d like to earn Jonathan Ross’s money, but I don’t have sleepless nights wondering when someone’s going to knock on my door with sacks of cash. “
” For many young women, the dream of independence and a home of their own is a tantalising goal, while a lifetime devoted solely to catering for another person’s needs would be hard to countenance. “
” There are two ways of approaching your time on this planet: one is to sit around waiting for something to happen that will make sense of your existence, and the other is to get out there and find purpose for yourself. “
” While we women dilly-dally, making decisions, leaving jobs half done, forgetting where we’ve put the house keys while we water the Hoover and leave the laundry in the dishwasher, men, like blinkered horses, look straight ahead, oblivious to peripheral vision, where a discarded pile of wet towels might have caught their eye. “
” First, I was a glacial blonde doing music programmes. Then I was the film kind of sexy bird late at night. It was frustrating like I guess it’s frustrating for everyone who is not fully employing their talents. “
” I know we should aspire to be higher philosophical beings, contemplating the universe and becoming more refined humans, but if all we did was think, then arguably we’d never have invented the wheel. “
” I would go out with people who really didn’t like me very much and then wonder why we weren’t getting married! “
” Writers want to talk. They can’t wait to tell you what they’ve been thinking. And because they’ve been in solitude, they’ve had some fairly decent thoughts. “
” I used to go out with someone who was a really great diver, and we used to go to all the great dive spots all over the globe – although I would spend most of my time crying because I was often too scared to go into the water. But once I was in the water, I loved it. “
” I have a very childish attitude to books – a very non-analytic enthusiasm… like Alice falling down the chute. “
” When a father of a daughter dies, you elevate them. And you sort of deify them. “
” As we mature, there are people with whom we run out of steam, but there are also those with whom a little straight talking would prove rewarding. “
” I recognise my old self in a lot of the letters I get from single women who are unrealistic about what they want. “
” In my child’s-eye view, whenever I was exposed to pain, it meant that my mother had let me down. “
” Fridays are always movie night at our flat in Kensington, West London. “
” Saturday and Sunday mornings are the only time the children are allowed to turn on the television. “
” I hate the thought of my children being glued to a screen. Children only play on computers all day because their parents let them. “
” I was brought up in the countryside in Ireland and would go bonkers if I couldn’t escape the city. I like to wake and hear birds tweeting, not the low drone of traffic. “
” I have had demanding jobs since I was 18 years old. I have had two sick days in all my working life. “
” I feel lucky that I had my children late. Not that I would advise it in any shape or form. But I know friends who had children when they were young, struggled with feeling trapped. I can honestly say I’ve never once resented the fact that I couldn’t go out because of my kids. “
” I was raised a socialist by two very socialist parents, and I still feel very animated about socialist principles. “
” I love my children, but I don’t really want to talk about them. I’m not that much of a freakish middle-aged mother, I’m just very lucky, and there isn’t much more to say. I’d like not to be constantly expected to be a spokesman for things that are part of the natural rhythm of a woman’s life. “
” If I ever write a book, it will be called ‘Bottle Blonde.’ “
” Men that aren’t threatened by opinionated, faintly aggressive women are in a minority. “
” The idea of exposing the British public to the full breadth of my personality isn’t a good one. “
” I used to routinely turn down things that might compound the impression that I was some kind of vacuous blonde. But now, when I look back, I think I should have done them because I would be very rich – being taken seriously isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. “
” I have a producer friend who despairs that I come across as rather frosty and never show the real me, and she might have a point. “
” Nothing can prepare you for the all-consuming nature of motherhood, and I am very aware of my good fortune, as I spent years fretting about whether I’d ever meet anyone to have a baby with. “
” Television executives only commission something that somebody else has already commissioned that’s doing well on another station – they’re afraid of expecting an audience to concentrate for longer than three minutes on any particular item. “
” My parents split up, and a lot of things going on in the outside world made me want to immerse myself in an alternative world. “
” I’m a control freak. And more so now that I have children. “
” I don’t want my daughter to think she has to dress like Beyonce! “
” If I was a man, I don’t know if I’d settle down long before I was 50. “
” Whenever the party-girl tag gets attached to my name, it makes me want to snort with derision. “
” You’re allowed to have gravitas when you’ve got the wrinkles to prove it, but not when you’re attractive and younger – or, at least, you have to fight really hard to prove you’re capable of productive thought. “
” I love physical books, can’t bear to throw them away, and am drowning under the weight of my collection, but I do a lot of my work reading now on my iPad. “
” I couldn’t choose a favourite author, but two contemporary writers who have never disappointed me are Tim Winton and Alice Munro. “
” Reading a book you are not enjoying is a torture not to be undertaken without a reward. I leave plays at the interval, too! “
” The sight of parents, children and grandparents all descending on a tented field to enjoy the pleasure of ideas and books renews my faith in humanity. “
” In my late teens and early twenties, I thought having children was possibly the most irresponsible thing you could do because I thought that the world was a dreadful place; I thought the sooner we all got off the planet, the better. “
” Coming from a broken home, I wanted to be as sure as I could be that my kids would have two parents who will stay together and bring them up. “
” I used to go out with someone who was a really great diver, and we used to go to all the great dive spots all over the globe – although I would spend most of my time crying because I was often too scared to go into the water. But once I was in the water, I loved it. “
” I met Jason on a charity walk in 2001, and we got married on a friend’s boat in Panama two years later. It was the perfect wedding for two people who’d already been married and who weren’t teenagers. “
” Having a baby is a disaster for your career. I don’t think there’s any sympathy. “
” Men want children later, but women can’t rely on being able to. So I’m all for scientific advances and the help they can give people. “
” I would go out with people who really didn’t like me very much and then wonder why we weren’t getting married! “
” I’ve been accused of riding roughshod over others’ emotions, and I admit, when I feel a friend is being over-indulgent, my patience is in short supply. “
” Normally, the thin-skinned have an endless array of excuses for why their workaday interactions are so much harder to bear for them than for the rest of us. In the eyes of the self-suffering, they are being victimised, used and always abused, when they’re actually experiencing exactly the same body blows as the rest of us. “
” There are more than enough people with serious mental issues who really do need professional help without all the other Toms, Dicks and Harriets rushing to the therapist’s couch. “
” What an unappealing responsibility that is to lumber any prospective lover with: the need to be a saviour, not simply an equal partner. “
” Far too many girls’ and women’s romantic relationships are formed around a negation of their own worth and attributes rather than a confirmation of them. “
” Too often we forget that an ideal partner is someone who enhances an already full existence. “
” In romance, we feel the need to zoom in and expound on our partner’s foibles in intimate detail; in friendship, we tend to do the opposite, avoiding confrontation through fear, lethargy or both. “
” Placing ‘amicable’ and ‘separation’ together creates an oxymoron – we don’t usually decide to end a partnership until the very sight of our soon-to-be ex fills us with disgust, misery, agony or a combination of all three. “
” Many new lovers and spouses struggle to reconcile themselves with their partners’ relationship history, but it’s an insecurity I left behind in my 20s. “
” Personally, I think there’s a lot to recommend being friends with your ex, and I’m glad to admit that I’m living proof of its possibility. “